HOW’S YOUR LOVE LIFE?
February is a winter month that seems to be warmed by Valentine’s Day. Perhaps that is why this love holiday is celebrated in the winter, to warm things up. When we think about Valentine’s Day we generally think about romantic love and while that is surely something to celebrate we are likely involved in other love relationships which are not romantic in nature. We hold these relationships very dear too. So “How’s Your Love Life?” Perhaps this is the month for us to take stock of our love life.
• Who are the people we care deeply about?
• Do they know what they mean to us?
• How do we show our love?
Sometimes we struggle with finding the time to spend with all those people we care about. The calendar is full and there is always so much to do. If you have small children, or grand –children you know that what they like best of all is time with you, undivided attention from you. We can learn a lot from children. Actually grownups invariably say that time and attention to their relationships is what keeps them strong too! And yet, this can be the most challenging thing to give our loved ones in our very busy lives. It is great to know that the simplest gesture can make a huge difference; stopping for that extra hug, listening carefully rather than in a distracted manner, leaving a sweet note, checking in with that unexpected call during the work day, cooking a meal, walking the dog, putting gas in the car. Simple, yet powerful ways to show love.
Be careful of becoming competitive in your relationships as this is where ego gets in the way of love. Keeping score with partners, children, relatives or friends is a no-win situation. Of course if a relationship is truly out of balance over time, do your best to address it head on and make decisions about how you need to behave with this person moving forward.
As important as it is to give love it is just as important to let love in! When someone does something for us, even if they do it daily, it is key to express our ongoing appreciation and to let them know how their gesture makes us feel. This will encourage them to not only continue what they are doing, but to want to do even more to express their love for us.
In closing, you want to feel right about where you put your loving efforts and you want to feel respected and cherished at the same time. After all, the most important relationship of all is ultimately the one we have with ourselves.
So, enjoy this month of love……May you be clear and sincere in all of your love relations! Listen in to the radio show at http:sistertosisterletstalk.ning.com